Hawks Eye

This is actually about an incident I know personally. Let's identify the girl in question as y and the guy in question x. So this x is some kind of a flirt, or to be exact, more of a I-ask-anyone-out,please-someone-say-yes typo! To say the least, a pretty desperate one. So he goes out and keep asking girls out of the blue and expects them to say yes. I'd be damned if they do, but for some odd reason, one girl actually gave in and said yes to him.
Now x was overjoyed by it, I mean simply and totally. It wasn't really a matter of asking out a girl and getting a positive response from her, but it proved the world to him. I don't blame the chap either, for he sure was pretty desperate in any case.
So these two started going out and hanging around each other and literally glued together; or rather x was glued to y was more like it. The whole thing went on for a while and suddenly erupted like a volcano. Silence before a storm was the pre-play and the actual storm was pretty hard not to notice. x and y had a big row, and split up and went their separate ways. It was no ordinary lovers' quarrel, it was something absolutely serious and x had a real hard time coping up with it. y was taking it more gallantly and silently though. So anyways, you guys might think I'm actually cooking up some random bull of a quarrel among lovers into a blog post, but that was not the intention. We got a chance to analyze the whole situation, well actually we had to do something about it because it was a real pain seeing x moaning and whining around.

So myself and a friend decided to talk to the guy and find out what actually happened. The guy was actually truthful and told us the whole story. As I've mentioned before, he has been overjoyed finding himself lucky with a girl all of a sudden. This has led him to have a considerable rein over y which has gradually started to make y annoyed. It is fair in that kind of situation because x actually has tried to impose some rules on her. Rules? say okay for some general stuff, but this guy has made y to only have a limited male friends, and even a little portion of them she could hang out with if x is not there. Literally the list was limited to 6 and 4 including y's bother and father. This of course has irritated y enormously and x was confessing that y has been protesting for sometime continuously that life just isn't fair that way. But at the end, when y couldn't bear the pressure, the volcano has erupted and all that big scene was made and they broke up!
What I'm trying to emphasize is this, without no advice from us, x has actually understood what went wrong between them. But the saddest part is that, it took him such and incident to understand the dynamics of the game. It is important to be able to get into one's shoe's and look at a problem in their perspective in order to have a thorough and 360 degrees understanding.
Fortunately they were able to get into an understanding together after sometime and y must have missed x as well. At the end of the day, they are a happy couple as far as I know for today and so x must have adopted to the dynamics of the situation.

I say, it's great if she's only mine, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't socialize with others or hang out with others. The edge of possessiveness has a dependency somewhere along the line that can only be fixed with a thorough understanding with each others' mindset. Again, it all depends on your personal perspective, this was a common generalization of the effect.

Are you a matador?

I've always had this question over what actually makes one to help another and how does the variation of us helping one another happens with one moving higher up in a corporate ladder. Sometimes we think it's ubiquitous and one tends to help less and less as one climbs higher and higher. Somebody actually had a row with me telling me that even thinking about it is futile and it's just too apparent. But I beg to differ for I have found, more than once that is, people who are actually in a high stance in the corporate ladder helping the bloomers in various ways, simply out of goodwill. So as a generalization, I don't think that statement is true, but rather it depends on the circumstance and mostly on the person itself.
If one is brought up in such a way to appreciate the finer things in life, and by finer things I mean the contribution phase, they are more prone to be a helping hand no matter where they reside in. That is the beauty of it, they have realized that actually by lighting another candle, your light doesn't get dimmer. The counterpart of this is where we encounter most of the time and that is why my friend was actually arguing that one just doesn't appreciate helping when they are up the corporate ladder. Of course, I can't blame him either, he has been let down once too much.
Anyway, moving on, the counterpart is actually branches into two categories. There are people who doesn't help at all, but the only thing they do is not helping. They don't show any interest further. But the dangerous kind is the one who acts like matadors. They not only don't help you, but they actually try to run you down. This is mostly an issue of self esteem as far as I could gather through the experiences I could relate from my friends. It it actually a real barrier to get across these types of people. If you come across them, the best thing is to give side and just let them be.
But what actually made me write this post was something happened to me today. It actually made me realize again that no matter what my friend say, people who help without an apparent expectation in mind are there. The best thing about them is, they are really willingly help us and take it up to the next level and do a follow up as well. It's amazing how much self confidence one can gain through simple incidents like this, but I would gladly reckon that it is indeed a pleasure to see such collaboration, dedication and contribution coming with such guidance, all in the face of good will.
I was determined to be a helping hand wherever necessary from the time I've been on my foot, my ground and my decision space and I was more and more determined to keep it that way from all the experiences I've gained throughout the time.

One needs to understand that your light doesn't get dimmer even if you light another thousands of candles!