This is actually about an incident I know personally. Let's identify the girl in question as y and the guy in question x. So this x is some kind of a flirt, or to be exact, more of a I-ask-anyone-out,please-someone-say-yes typo! To say the least, a pretty desperate one. So he goes out and keep asking girls out of the blue and expects them to say yes. I'd be damned if they do, but for some odd reason, one girl actually gave in and said yes to him.
Now x was overjoyed by it, I mean simply and totally. It wasn't really a matter of asking out a girl and getting a positive response from her, but it proved the world to him. I don't blame the chap either, for he sure was pretty desperate in any case.
So these two started going out and hanging around each other and literally glued together; or rather x was glued to y was more like it. The whole thing went on for a while and suddenly erupted like a volcano. Silence before a storm was the pre-play and the actual storm was pretty hard not to notice. x and y had a big row, and split up and went their separate ways. It was no ordinary lovers' quarrel, it was something absolutely serious and x had a real hard time coping up with it. y was taking it more gallantly and silently though. So anyways, you guys might think I'm actually cooking up some random bull of a quarrel among lovers into a blog post, but that was not the intention. We got a chance to analyze the whole situation, well actually we had to do something about it because it was a real pain seeing x moaning and whining around.
So myself and a friend decided to talk to the guy and find out what actually happened. The guy was actually truthful and told us the whole story. As I've mentioned before, he has been overjoyed finding himself lucky with a girl all of a sudden. This has led him to have a considerable rein over y which has gradually started to make y annoyed. It is fair in that kind of situation because x actually has tried to impose some rules on her. Rules? say okay for some general stuff, but this guy has made y to only have a limited male friends, and even a little portion of them she could hang out with if x is not there. Literally the list was limited to 6 and 4 including y's bother and father. This of course has irritated y enormously and x was confessing that y has been protesting for sometime continuously that life just isn't fair that way. But at the end, when y couldn't bear the pressure, the volcano has erupted and all that big scene was made and they broke up!
What I'm trying to emphasize is this, without no advice from us, x has actually understood what went wrong between them. But the saddest part is that, it took him such and incident to understand the dynamics of the game. It is important to be able to get into one's shoe's and look at a problem in their perspective in order to have a thorough and 360 degrees understanding.
Fortunately they were able to get into an understanding together after sometime and y must have missed x as well. At the end of the day, they are a happy couple as far as I know for today and so x must have adopted to the dynamics of the situation.
I say, it's great if she's only mine, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't socialize with others or hang out with others. The edge of possessiveness has a dependency somewhere along the line that can only be fixed with a thorough understanding with each others' mindset. Again, it all depends on your personal perspective, this was a common generalization of the effect.
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