When you develop an infatuation for someone, you always find a reason to believe that this is exactly the person for you. It doesn't need to be a good reason, taking photographs of the night sky for example, now in the long run, that's just the kind of dumb irritating habit that would cause you to split up. But in the haze of infatuation, it's just what you've been searching for all these years.This is quoted from Leonardo Di Caprio in the movie casted in 2000 called the beach. I wouldn't go into explaining about the movie, but if you guys need an explanation or the outline of the movie, you can check it out here. As much as I want to think this as a simple conversation in a movie, this has it's roots deep down to the way the human minds work.
As the quote suggests, an infatuation for someone is just like a cloud covering a crystal clear sky. Sometimes it covers somethings that are too obvious if one did not have an infatuation on someone. But with this cloud covering your vision of rationality and logical reasoning of the brain, it will be simply impossible to understand the risks we have to face in pursuing the ultimate Elysium.
This is the origin of the so called soul mates or perfect match or whatever that has been called over the time. In the haze of an infatuation, one simply finds enough and more reasons to defend your infatuation on the certain someone you think who is a perfect match for you. As the quote suggests, it need not to be a strong reason, it doesn't even have to be rational or logical because the way your vision is covered, it simply wouldn't matter at all. The reason stated in the quote is quite circumstantial, but it does point out a good example.
Thus it seems that one can conclude the pseudo reality of perfect match is built up upon an infatuation you have on someone. In turn, these infatuation are caused by various factors starting from looks to initial impressions you get. But what one doesn't realize initially is that impressions are not permanent. They evolve when you gain experience and more exposure on the certain someone. And when they evolve and the infatuation seems no longer valid, sometimes your way past the turning point and can never go back. Frankly, that seems to be the origin of bad relationships.
I know I am challenging the very existence of a platonic love, but I think in turn it can exist as well. Because, an infatuation growing into a gradual dislike is one scenario in the picture, whereas an infatuation can also grow into a passion, something great, where one cares beyond the physical means and is and will be happy for the other someone even if they are not with you.
I am simply not making any conclusions here, but instead just stating the facts I think are related on this matter. So in my point of view, even in the haze of infatuation, one can find some reasons good enough to hang on to somebody and in turn, those reasons may well lead to a state of platonic love even if that isn't presumed to exist anymore. So even if you feel that 'it's all you have been searching for all these years', there is a god possibility that it might be true, whether or not the other would feel the same that is. And for all I can say, even in the haze infatuation, your instincts should work because human is after all an animal, and animals are primarily creatures driven by instincts, instincts to be safe and not to get hurt. Where all the logical reasoning would fail, let your reflexes to guide you and let your instincts to take over.
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